The site for this John screening flowchart has moved, so the links provided by SexyTWO are no longer valid. Here is the
new site.
It is '
A Sex Workers Weblog' written by Friction - a highly recommended read for both escorts and hobbyists.
Friction's screening process is based on the idea that ANY trouble whatsoever in e-mail or phone is a sign of potential trouble in-person.
Friction illustrates how she screens with this Case Study.
quote Friction :
Just today I had a little text message exchange. Imagine this using my flow chart.
Him: hi, do u have time 2morrow evening? rgds john
Me: Yes, what time is good for you?
Him: evening, where shall we meet ?
quote Friction :
Here is where I would normally store his phone number under the “NO” category so I can ignore any future contact from him. But instead I gave him one last chance.
Me: Your place. Give me your home phone number, address and TIME.
He hasn’t replied.
quote Friction :
Problem solved. I will not be wasting any time meeting him somewhere in public, sometime God-knows-when tomorrow night, whenever he feels like at the last minute. I will not be spending my own money to set up an incall location for a guy who doesn’t even tell me what time he wants to meet.
I know exactly what she means. I'm sure many of us have received exactly this kind of communication. Ninety-nine percent of the time, its a complete waste of time. So hobbyists take note - you may be screened out as a time-waster by how you communicate.