Forum - Getting to know your client or provider........

For me it's chating online. Seems to be the best way to make contact and gain trust between two people so when finally you meet for real it's like meeting an old friend from high school.you can even video chat face to face now a days, share pics.It's a great way to make sure both parties will enjoy the fun

Wow. I haven't got so good experience on this field. As for me the virtual outfit of the mate differs quite much from him/herself...
But I don't mean videochatting as have never done it myself. Perhaps it's the time to try, just to keep up with time...

I like to chat with a client before meeting, like the day before a scheduled encounter. It establishes a bit of a comfort level. The best way is a phone call. Hearing a voice can give you a sense of what that person is like.

Completely yes! But what do you think about voice chatting like skype,for example? I believe it is cool though not so useful as phone conversations

I completely accept this manner of getting acquainted, and think it's useful and modern.
Skype rules! At least between computers.

I like skype myself though neve used its video options, as I said.
I also heard that this nice soft was composed by Estonian programmers 9or of estonian origin?) Do you know anything about this, Lonelitude?

The first escort I ever had--we talked through email before calling. I prefer talking online simply for the fact that more can be said. Yes, a phone conversation can be faster, but it may not have the most information (besides indicating a basic demeanor). Text cuts out many of the nervous "ums" and other onomatopoeia that do little productively. That really helps me, for I'm nervous ANY time I am on the phone.

The second escort I had--we met in a casino in Vegas and had never talked before, but she was very sweet and kind. We probably spent the majority of our time merely hanging out, and it was quite pleasurable! Though that was a good experience, that could be an exception as opposed to the rule (I could be wrong, but as I've said before, I have little experience!), and I would still feel most comfortable talking to someone online, or if not that, then on the phone.

I agree that chatting online is great. But I feel chatting on the phone is even better. you can study a persons voice a little bit better. It will help you know if they are LE or not. I mean, you still may not be able to tell, but its worth it.

Leyla

A Hotwife posted this in her blog, as well.

My answere is the same. I would like to send a few e-mails to the escort, first, and then call her. I would like to get an impresson of how she responds before calling her.

I don't like it when an ad says contact by e-mail and I spend time sending a lot of information about myself and asking if she likes out of door activites and then recieving a reply: Call me.

I get no reponse to my question or the information I provided nothing.

I don't go on blind dates, never did. And recievieng a message like that just Turns me off. I spend time respecting you and trying to make you feel comfortable and in return I get dis'd. No way.

One provider, from Sacrarmento, Adorable Ashley, was an ass hole when I sent her e-mails. Insulted me and even refused to answere when I asked if she was the one who placed the ad.

I know you ladies are concerned about LE and rip off's, well, we hobbyists feel the same way.

Like, LaserPhiltre, I'm not a good phone conversatlionist. I don't like having a conversation with some one I don't know.

When I went to see Fresh One we exchange a number of e-mails to get comfortable with each other and then started talking on the phone. I can talk to any one face to face but, to me, the phone is impersonal.

Not to mention, during the war I was the guy on the radio directing air support and artillery fire and everyone was trying to kill me. Not good reflections when I pick up the phone. I still jump when it rings.LOL

Do you think that quality of phone connection is so much better than IP? Or you mean something esle saying about detecting a LE.

A well known courtesan advised me thus,

"Speak on the phone. Find something to share a laugh over. A joke, funny story, whatever. It's a great way to break the ice and share comraderie. If he doesn't laugh with you, he could be LE, or at the very least, not much fun"

I take that into consideration when talking on the phone. I also like to meet first time clients in a public place nearby before escorting them back to my incall. This gives both client and provider a chance to check one another out in person on neutral turf. If one or the other feels apprehensive about continuing, it gives either the provider or the client the chance to walk away safely and with less awkwardness than leaving the client's or provider's turf.

I really have a heart for the client in the screening process and have searched for a way to make both the client and provider feel safe. What I care about more than who he is on paper is who he is deep down in his heart. Chatting, phone conversations and/or pre-meetings are all great ways to get a sense of one another.

Anymore ideas on how to do this screening dance in a way that will make both provider and client feel safe?

Take care,
Leslie

As an escort, one needs to use *all* means of communication well (telephone, internet, email, and text/voice/video messaging). Too often I see escorts using only one predominant means of contact, which limits their availability. This means that they are missing out on business.

We also communicate on many levels, including many non-verbal forms of communication such as body language. It is the non-verbal cues that often tell us when someone is interested in you, something is not right, someone is legit or someone is LE. So Leslie is right, use all the tools you have to make the connection.

I would suggest that a little forbearance and patience (both hobbyist and escort) would make the process better. We escorts need to patiently teach the 'screening dance' (by example, and through discussions such as this), and hobbyists need to be receptive to learning the dance and to doing their homework. Its a beautiful thing when both parties can dance, and not step on each other's toes.

Sometimes its just not going to work. Then either party should disengage with 'no reason required' (because you've both given and received with respect) and find another dance partner.

I'll be totally honest --- I've blown off calls and emails because the person pissed me off immediately in some way (i.e. being a jerk, being lame --- let me count the ways!). Just remember that its not what you do 5% of the time that counts ... its what you do 95% of the time. Its OK to have a bad day.

dominixe,

I completely agree with your all communications. I sent a lady an e-mail and she replied to send her an IM. Well, I don't have text messaging and replied that I didn't have it.

Haven't had a reply.

if there is the time to talk, chat or whatever in advance then for sure very good. you may find out more about the cusotmer and when you meet all is "smoother". however, aswe all know we do not always life in the perfect world....

Here is the article containing this nice scheme

It can be opened fullsize HERE

Dominixe & Leslie +2