Forum - Men Being Lame!!!

Hey everyone it's LeiLee again!!! I just wanted to know why these men are calling me and emailing me like crazy and then tehy set something up and then disappear. It is a waste of both of our time. Why do they feel they need to lie in such cases? I am wanting to get known because I have already had a future client that until I got known he was "being cautious" with me. SO I need something going on. Everytime I think something is going to happen then they don't call or no show. Am I doing something wrong? Will someone please give me some advice on this?

LeiLee

You are doing nothing wrong. These men are inconsiderate. A gentleman would call you to cancel a pre-arranged appointment.

This happens to everyone.

I have had men send me a detailed email about setting up a date, and then not answer my reply. They have hung up on me when we are talking (did not like something I was saying). And I have had men give me false names and addresses, lie about being at a hotel, and not answer the door when I arrive.

Don't let it get to you. Its part of the business. There ARE gentlemen and good dates to be had --- but expect to weed out the chaff with a screening process.

As to why men do this? Don't know. Maybe some of the hobbyists here can shed some light on the reasons for this bad behavior.

This butt heads are probably why I can't get anyone to reply to my emails. I have been tring to meet a lady in my area for close to a month but never recieve any replies to my emails. They have probably been burnt so many times by these jerks that they won't return emails now. I need to use emails to protect myself for now. Hopefully I will get a reply soon and can meet a nice lady that can become a regular for me.

If they e-mail from yahoo be more suspicious and go to the profiles and see when they created that yahoo id. If it appears they just created it they could have set it up just for game playing.

Also always ask in your questionnaire what handles they have on any boards and what boards. Where they found you etc...

Having a questionnaire will stop some dead in their tracks as they do not like to go through that process unless they are more serious. Of course there is some that will do the questionnaire regardless just to play their game. But it does cut back on the amount of no shows.

Besides you should be screening clients anyways and they should understand the need to do this. Also what helps is only seeing men that have a number to call back if no number shows on your phone that is where most of the no shows will come from as well.

I would like to add just a couple of quick things. In the area where I live.... I bet I have spent over a month just trying to find a provider. I call and leave a VM and no return call. I email and RARELY do I get a response. I have come to understand that this must be part of the business. I am not a fan of it, but it just seems that way. The second thing... I am supposed to give alot of details as to who I am to assure your safety and I completely understand that, however, with that being said..... There are law enforcements out there posing as providers and we have no way of knowing if they truely are who they say they are. So please don't worry about fake names and no return emails/calls. Like I said, I think it is just part of the business.

Take care and best of luck to everyone!

I'm answering 10-15 emails daily and on average 1-2 customers cancels per week.
Most guys are just shopping around for prices or want to chat because they are lonely.
Many calling around providers to see who is friendly or to try to renegotiate the fees.
Some are on business trip and cannot get away, some has GF or wife and cannot get away for few hours, so cancels. And there are those who just play around and never shows.......

Hey everyone,

I agree with alot of the comments that were made. I have guys e-mailing and sending me messages all the time. I believe alot of them are shopping around or are just plain nervous and unsure about the whole prcoess. It is true that there are undercovers posing as providers. You never know. That is why I keep things short and sweet as I always say. When a gentlemen contacts me, I am always polite and willing to answer a few questions. However I always direct them to visit my website and make an appointment. I always advise them that I will not answer any sexually explicit questions. Also I let them know that they must call me on the same day of the appointment. Otherwise I will assume the appointment has been canceled. It is that simple. You have to let go of all the hang ups and wanting to help everyone. This is a business. It may take a while to find the good clients, but they are out there. be patient and be strong. You will come out on top. Spend some time on resources. Look for support sites, web design, photos, and other resources that will help you advertise more so that you can bring in more clients.

Oh! and a word about providers not responding to e-mails and appointment requests: While its true many providers sometimes dont respond to clients requests, they may be on an extended engagement, touring, sick, on vacation, in trouble with the law or just plain out of business. If you dont hear from a provider in about a week, I would simply move on and find another lady. A true business woman will get back to you promptly whether or not she wants to see you
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Leyla

I also agree with everything said here, the same thing happens to me guys will email and call me and then we will set something up and then they never show up or they chicken out it is very annoying and a waste of time the best way I deal with this is I only respond to the emails/ voicemails with the most information. I usually do not respond to emails that say "available today" or "where are you?" one line emails end up beating around the bush and never get anywhere

Most one line emails are from people who aren't serious about meeting, time wasters. However, on occasion, it is simply someone new who is nervous about contacting someone. Unless the email is explicit, rude and such, I answer all questions. Most of the time, a question is asked that is answered on my site. I direct him to it.

If a person is serious about meeting, in your first email to the provider, indicate your interest. Make it obvious you've read her/his website and know the score. It's understandable not wanting to send your info in the first email. However, if you check them out before contacting them, you can pretty much figure out if they are for real or a sting. If they have several reviews, such as a mix of current and old (a year and older) reviews, most likely, they are real. LE won't devote that much time into setting up a fake persona. Reviews can be found on this site, TER, TBD, and several other boards.

many people will waste your time. internet and via other ways to contact you. that is normal. just need to stay firendly and nice....

Oh I really agree. Trusting people is very important, being an escort girl becomes much more hard without it i suppose.

Don't feel bad this happens weekly and everyone is right they are shopping for a deal or its their first time doing this and are scared and nervous . I just tell them if you book and cancel or don't show they will have to pay extra next time. But if they have a good reason for canceling then its acceptable to let it slide Usually it works sometimes it doesn't just remember be polite always.

I always request a hotel booking sent to me via e mail,also a mobile number.No info,no booking.

and let's not forget that men are the most annoying creatures on the planet anyways. haha, just kidding, LOVE YAS!
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