Do you always squirt when you cum?
This question from young [Name] who booked in for some TLC last Thursday. I am regularly asked about it but his question was different to the typical 'general interest'.
Answer: No. In fact, with me, cumming vs squirting are two completely different reactions to different actions. Time for an explanation. My first experience of squirting was 2 years ago. A guy Id met off NZDating claimed he knew a guaranteed method of 'releasing the flood gates', taught by a girlfriend. I was interested of course, with ample pinches of salt. He wasnt wrong. Guy positioned himself above me so he had full use of his arm. With 2 fingers he began pounding my g-spot, literally. As I lay there thinking this was a tad silly and surely a waste of time, yes, flood gates opened! It took no more than 4 minutes. I had no warning, no sense of anything building and wouldnt have believed it had I not seen it. He continued. There seemed to be a never ending supply of liquid and with each big splash my body started to respond more, feel more and anticipate. It reminded me of giving birth...leaving out the watermelon element. When I was having my daughter the midwife told me not to push until she said. Yeah right! When my body did start pushing there was nought I could do about it. This 'bearing down' (a full body assault as opposed to the simple push you would do taking a pee - apologies for this getting gory) was all consuming, exhausting and completely out of my control. An eye opening night.
I was quite sure I could now figure this out myself. Alas, 'twasnt to be, and not for lack of trying! I couldnt a) replicate the degree of vigour he'd used...my arm not being in the proper position and lacking required stamina or b) find the right spot...though I didnt realise I had it wrong at the time. The odd person came along who knew a few basics and yes, I did squirt occasionally but usually more on par with an enthusiastic dribble. My body, the aching muscles from bearing down (which has remained a reaction) and significantly bruised fanny, tended to suffer greatly for little gain...or none. I put it on the back burner until a friend, one who was also interested but had no experience, stayed the night. For 5 hours Sally squirting became entire focus and we got there, another drenched bed with a totally destroyed Sally and friends arm. I was buggered for 3 days afterwards. This marathon was the trigger my body needed to kick into gear. Its like anything, we need to teach ourselves, the same way one can train their nipples to become orgasmic or body to become multi-orgasmic, both applying to men and women. From this night I quickly evolved to a) being able to achieve gushing under my own steam, easily, and b) my g-spot not even being required. Nowadays my most enjoyable, effective squirting comes from clit stimulus alone. When really firing Ive come very close to gushing by simply squeezing my muscles, no hands required. This isnt far away. Quantity and velocity also quickly increased.
So, why are cumming and squirting different for me? Building to a clitoral orgasm I suck in, squeezing my PC muscles upwards. Gushing Im pushing out. Problem. I'd always enjoyed having my g-spot massaged while receiving oral but, with said g-spot becoming hyper-reactive I wound up on a pulling-pushing roller coaster that achieved nothing. A nice clitoral orgasm in the making would be killed the instant my g-spot was touched, squirting would kick in. Ive had to ask for one or the other, not both at once, and learnt how to control the on-off switches for each in my head...this still takes some focus. Next problem being the understandable desire of lovers to produce said soaking themselves. Valiant efforts, if they arent getting it right, still see me in full throes of all-body muscle workout which I can only handle for so long. Final problem, the difference between clit stimulus used to produce gushing vs clitoral orgasm. They are different, the former being a rigorous action as opposed to the slow, gentle licking required for latter, occasionally the lines are crossed...see 'pulling-pushing roller coaster'. The mess can also be a problem. Sometimes it just isnt appropiate and having to hold back can be a kill-joy, frustrating. Gents generously offering to "get a towel" realise quickly this is insufficient.
Despite answering No to the original question I have, on occasion, gushed when cumming. This has happened when Id already been gushing alot so my body was tuned into it and will have been caused by the 'squeezing, no hands required' mentioned above.
What does gushing feel like? Its good fun, adds an awesome dimension to my sex life and I love the reactions to it. There is a building and release of sorts, feels nice, but pales in comparison to a normal Orgasm. There is no comparison. There is so much literature available, most of it conflicting. I only have my experiences to go by and realise everyone is different. I do hope to one day be able to help other women, and their men. Anabel has put her hand up after we spoke about it, among other things, over wine last night. I do believe there is a demand :).
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General Category: Sex
Added on: 10/08/07 05:08
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